5 Ways To Cope In A Long Distance Relationship
If there's any way to be blunt about long distance relationships, its that they suck. Being away from your serious partner or love interest and not knowing what the future holds DUE TO distance is both frustrating and disheartening.
I have been in a long-distance relationship for over two-years, and its been hard, but I've developed some skills and tactics that have helped me cope and transition into the future of us moving in together.
edit: now we live TOGETHER.. it's great. why? because i stuck to the rules below V
1. DON'T BE OBSESSED WITH YOUR S/O
This may sound dumb.. but checking up on them every 20 minutes isn't cute either. With a long distance relationship you need to give each other space to live your separate lives. A daily catch up once OR A COUPLE TIMES a day, or whenever works for your relationship IS great, AND QUITE FRANKLY, ENOUGH.
Everyone's different, and some people like to communicate on the regular via text message. you have to make sure that one of you isn't obsessing over what the other is doing. It's not healthy. Encourage each others' activities and friendships instead of guilting one another into a constant update.
2. WORK ON YOURSELF
In a way, long distance relationships is the perfect excuse to really get to KNOW YOURSELF. THE STORY IS MANY TIMES THE SAME - YOU MEET YOUR S/O AND ALL OF A SUDDEN BECOME CAPTIVATED and obsessed over THEIR LIFESTYLE, APPEARANCE, THE NEXT TIME YOU'LL SEE THEM, WHATEVER.
TRULY, THAT'S ALL FINE AND DANDY BUT If you lose touch of your own personal growth - ESPECIALly while you're apart.. there's a problem.
NOW IS THE TIME TO START FOCUSING ON WHAT REALLY EXCITES YOU - WHAT YOUR PASSIONS AND ASPIRATIONS ARE. WHAT HOBBIES you will continue you as you mature.
DEVELOP YOUR OWN INTERESTS, YOU OWN HOBBIES - YOU WILL NEVER KNOW HOW VALUABLE THEY WILL BE! Also, who doesn't love a strong, independent partner?
3. HAVE AN END-GOAL
eventually one of you is going to have to move to the other... i mean.. isn't that the whole point of the relationship?
talk about it - decide who will take the leap, AND HELP AND APPRECIATE THE PARTNER WHO CHANGES THEIR COMFORT ZONE FOR THE OTHER. HAVING AN END-GOAL OF FINALLY BEING TOGETHER the will bind you CLOSER and make you more positive about the future, and it will also make the wait less painful.
4. DON'T LET PEOPLE CLOUD YOUR JUDGEMENT.
EVERYONE HAS AN OPINION ABOUT SOMETHING THAT THEY DO NOT LIVE. IF PEOPLE ARE INTERFERING, stating their opinion, getting emo about your relationship- tell them to sit down (METAPHORICALLY, OF COURSE).
AT THE END OF THE DAY, THE ONLY PEOPLE THAT ARE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP ARE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER. EVERYONE ELSE DOES NOT MATTER.
IF SOMEONE HAS AN OPINION ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND ALL ITS DOING IS CAUSING YOU UNHAPPINESS AND INSECURITY TELL THEM TO START READING GOSSIP SITES (lainey, anyone?) WATCh DAYTIME TV, OR, PERHAPS INVEST IN A PET?
TAKE the WORDS AND OPINIONS of others WITH A GRAIN OF SALT.
5. TRUST EACHOTHER
A RELATIONSHIP CANNOT SURVIVE WITHOUT TRUST. BE OPEN AND HONEST about your feelings, even if they're not so nice. Refer to 1 if you catch yourself acting a bit crazy. You need to be on the same page with one another if you're going to make it work apart.
ME & MY FORMER LDR